A Little Laughter, A Little Emotion.....A Lot of Reality

Wednesday, March 11, 2009

A Weekend Away, Mid-Terms, Sick Boys, and a Time Change

This week we are in survival mode and I have a new-found appreciation for single moms who are commuting, taxi-ing, scheduling, achieving in the workplace, and attempting to produce four brilliant, well-nourished children!

It hasn't been that bad being the only adult in the house; but, I am WAY outnumbered. My strategy has been---prioritize! Priority number one is correct math homework and reading assignments for Sam (he takes most of the energy---that Saxon grade 4 math requires a lot of focus!). Priority two is food...some sort of healthy grub! And number three is BEDTIME, with brief moments of hugs/kisses/a bit of rocking/and reading the bedtime literature as quickly as possible, so I can flip off the lights :)) No, it probably isn't that frantic...but, it feels a bit like that in my mind. Then I try to escape from Ben (who is lurking around staircases and corners) so that I can finish up on crucial computer work.

This week's "after-kids-go-to-bed-task" has been creating my mid-term exam---definitely difficult to do with a 3 year-old on your lap (with his blankie and fat stuffed duckie!). I'm not sure WHAT I was thinking when I scheduled the exam the week after State Convention AND the time change! I feel like I lost some parts of my brain at the Lake, and what is left are black holes that are sucking the rest of my intellect into infinity! Hopefully I will recover soon...

The kids are recovering from a fun-filled weekend with G'ma and G'pa in Tipton....I'm glad that I didn't know, but the boys spent their time riding motorcycles, shooting BB guns and bow and arrows with G'pa; while Lydia played girlie-girl with G'ma....she got her first head of pink, puffy curlers :) I always hated those things; but she seemed willing to overlook the discomfort in order to enjoy the curls and the beauty attention!

A big THANKS and a kiss to my Mom and Dad who also took care of a very sick Jack! AND came up to KC Monday to take him to the Doc. He's recovering, but appears to have Mono-like symptoms...I recall those days...SUPER-tired. He sleeps nearly all day and night...very sad. But, I think he may be feeling better; because he's starting to annoy us again with goofy attention getting devices :)

Overall, I can't WAIT until Spring Break next week---I need some time to do nothing :))

Comment of the week...from 3 year-old Ben who is recently intrigued by his size, in comparison to adults.

He keeps asking me if my hands are big, if he's big, etc....yesterday, he was watching me pick up some clutter and said, "Mom! You are getting huge...just HUGE!" Ummm...thanks? Luckily, I think that he was comparing our heights :)) He seems to believe that I will keep growing! Sorry to disappoint little buddy, but five-foot is all....someday you will be towering over me and I will be saying "you're getting huge!"
That day will come sooner than I think :(

Wednesday, March 4, 2009

Packing, Packing :((

Yuck, yuck, yuck!!! Packing is my worst chore ever....something about it is just wrong. I can't put my finger on it. The whole process of it makes me dread my trip for some reason. But, it's almost done, so I guess I can go to sleep for a few hours and enjoy the upcoming weekend.

Maybe I can squeeze the gym and a massage into my Tan-Tar-A stay in between conferences and a presentation? Doubtful, but I'm prepared for a treadmill or great running weather, even if my sneakers never make it out of the bag!

Fun :) ---four kids going to Grandma's, me going to the Lake!
Not Fun :( ---packing all of life's necessities for four kiddos and me (only to come back on Sunday exhausted, with chores to be done, and ready for a vacation!)...See? There is something wrong with that!

Tuesday, March 3, 2009

A Budding "Super-Diva" or Strong-Willed Two Year-Old?

Well, I think I'm in trouble. It has been a battle of the wills around here for the last two days---I'm starting to wonder if I'm winning! The boys fought the homework last night, acting like a couple of goons; and today, Lydia seems to think that she runs the house. Not only does she not mind getting into trouble, she almost seems to enjoy being disobedient...just to see what will happen. Just now she started to draw in one of my books. She DID ask first; but as soon as I said "no" she peered over her glasses at me and started scribbling away grinning. I cannot STAND that! First, books and pencils don't mix. And second, two-year old overtly naughty girls are trouble!

In addition, we are starting to have emotionally freaky Diva problems....very simple ones, but it is emerging!

The last two days, she has become VERY opinionated about the clothing choices that I'm offering. I believe in choices, especially when it's about what you will be seen in...but this is getting ridiculous :)

I usually say "what do you want to wear today?" mainly just to humor myself and hear some two year-old conversation about the closet contents. But yesterday, I just picked an outfit without asking (and I'll admit, it wasn't my favorite either; but was mildly cute and available). As soon as I started to put it on her, she looked at it and pushed it away.

"No, it's really CUTE," I gush.
"No shirt! No cute Mommy!"

Well...it went on from there and wasn't pretty. She ended up wearing the outfit, but only after MANY tears and sobs "no cute, no cute!" "no sweater, yucky sweater!" LOL!! I really felt sorry for her, because it really wasn't that cute :) But, we were in a hurry and no time for finding something more stylish.

With tear stained cheeks, she went to Aunt Andrea's in a pastel blue and pink outfit (REALLY not her colors). I left feeling guilty, knowing that I hate to wear certain things too, especially things that are unflattering.

So....is it that my daughter really has a fashion sense? or maybe just 2, and willing to battle it out? Probably the latter. But, I will say, she DOES get excited about animal prints and bright sassy colors...so, maybe a Diva in the making! Right now, however, she is howling ever so dramatically at Ben over the Batman costume....a girl needs options, I guess. Yesterday, a pastel dud outfit; tonight, a super-hero!

Saturday, February 28, 2009

From the Mouth of My Babe

Sam is such a jabber-box...often I wonder how he can possibly talk so much, even when no one is really listening! I can hear him blabbing from the moment he wakes up. Today I was hiding in bed at 6 a.m. I could hear the boys were up, and Sam was sitting in the kitchen monologuing to Jack about reptile facts or the inventions that he will someday create. I'm not sure how long I lay there listening to his muffled voice through the floor, but I remember marveling at how that boy can TALK!

A few of his funny notions today....

"Mom, which would you prefer to meet, a snake or a huge spider?" um...is that really all of the choices I get? "No really, which is least scary?" uh..that really depends...am I bigger than the spider and can smash it? or did the spider land on my face?

"Mom, I'm really glad I don't have a freaky mom like some people..." oh really, what would you consider that verbal battle we had yesterday about his math? I'd say I was a bit freaky....glad he doesn't think so after the fact. :)

"Mom, when I make my inventions, I think the first one will be some kind of hydro-planing helicopter-type thingy..." as he paces the kitchen on his Heelies (says they help him "think").

And the best of all, tonight....as they are worried about their Daddy leaving tomorrow...

"Dad, why did you have to get this new job? Are you ever coming back? I think you just need to find a new one....I think you should get a job working at Siki (the Japanese Steakhouse)...that would be a cool job. You know you get to grill and squirt fire at people..."

LOL!!! That coming from the totally-serious Pyro who just finished staring into the fireplace for an hour.

Oh, to be 9 again---when life is simple, dreams are yet to be accomplished, and anything is possible because your thoughts come to life through your nonsense blabber :))) And that's the way it should be....

Waking up to White

I was SO hoping that Spring was coming...just wishful thinking because today is a Winter Wonderland.

Strangely the boys didn't ask to go out in the snow until about 10:00. Lydia face-planted as soon as she got out there and then Ben started bellowing because his mittens were falling off.

I usually try to delay the snow mess as long as I can :) Thirty minutes of prep getting geared up, out there for about 15 minutes, and then an hour of mess in my kitchen. Now, I'm looking at soggy clothes, dripping boots, and runny noses as they drink cocoa and eat popcorn.

But, FUN FUN! Maybe a movie for them, and a nap for me :)

Lazy Saturday....
















Monday, February 23, 2009

Changes

As I knew it would, the time has come which has totally broken my heart...the time to say goodbye to my favorite client.

Since this little boy was in second grade, I have worked with him each week, sometimes several times a week. This person (who happens to have autism) is not a little boy anymore---he is now sixteen (!), and for the past nine years he and I have tackled the issues that he has most difficulty with...social skills and talking with other people.

His family has given me the gift of continuing to work with him each week throughout my private practice days, even until now. But, as life (and my schedule) are changing, I am no longer able to meet with him during our once a week outings in the community.

Several times, people I knew would see us out in the community---him struggling to communicate effectively with the counter girl at Starbuck's, and me (the by-stander), coaching him through it. I wanted to burst out with how proud I was of his courage and determination---to do things that are so difficult, but persisting because he knows it will make him better in the end! That always embarrassed him though, so I was forced to hold back the gushing raves.

The people that I had him interacting with---the Border's bookstore worker, the guy in Best Buy, the waiter in a restaurant---could never understand just how difficult his assignments really were. I know they often wondered what we were up to...but each week he pushed himself a bit further until the job of interacting with people became no big deal. Just recently, he flawlessly ordered my tall decaf cafe mocha---eye contact, answering questions, repairing communication breakdown with the nit-wit counter girl, and all! :)

I left their house crying tonight, after his bear hug squeezed the tears out of me. I'm still sitting here weeping as I think of how far he has come and that I have had the blessing of helping him along the way! This is why I do what I do---broken heart and all! That kid has become a part of who I am, almost like my own child. The little boy that used to hold my hand in the school hallway telling me "I can't", now towers over me by a foot and tells me "I can." :)

I left with his words ringing in my ears "Mrs. Kemper, you've taught me everything I know...I'll miss you" as he runs down the stairs engaging in a George Lopez monologue... :))

I'll miss you too, C.O.---most will never understand the struggles that you overcome daily...you have MUCH to be proud of!

Sunday, February 22, 2009

Jason is dreading the extended-stay arrangements in Manhattan :( He will probably secretly enjoy the peace and quiet, at least for a little bit!
Before settling down for a Sunday afternoon siesta today, we took a few pics for him to take along to the big city...

Saturday, February 21, 2009

Getting Things Done

The easiest way for us to tackle our To Do list around here, is to have several extra hands and someone to initiate the tasks.

This weekend it was my mom and dad that got us in gear to get things done! Dad installed a garage door opener, Mom and the boys put together Lydia's table and chair set (a Christmas gift!), and Dad and Jason fixed a leaky sink. If it weren't for our folks, we would never accomplish anything! It takes a couple of people to entertain the kids and the others to do the work. My mom though, is very patient and will involve the little ones in the tasks---I did not inherit that quality from her!






Here are pics of my guys building chairs for their sis (supervised by Grandma)...










And the finished product....the perfect place for a tea party.

A Saturday afternoon...

Happiness today was....

....spending the afternoon with my old sorority roommate, laughing together and trying on dresses in Nordstrom. We haven't seen each other in several years and it was great to pick up where we left off, reminiscing about the times we skipped class at MU to go shopping. In between trying several dresses, she declared, "There is no way I would guess you are the mom of four kids!"

Thanks my friend---you made my week! There are many days when I feel I must look like the mom of ten kids!

And you, girl, should have bought that dress---it looked awesome!

Wednesday, February 18, 2009

The Work Scene...Ugh!

The time has come---the telecom job fiasco has finally hit!

Jason left Sprint in December and moved to a new WiFi-type company that's launching a new technology. Unfortunately, because of the economy the KC markets have been eliminated and what's left? Major cities...Chicago, NYC, etc. As of today, Jason will be doing "contract work" with Clearwire out of NYC. He is to report there on March 2nd after returning from a lame trip to DC this week.

Annoying and interesting, to say the least. So far, he hasn't blown up and quit...which is a surprising plus! So we will still have our house and food. We'll see what next week brings. I am a serious optimist and know that hurdles are just put into place to be jumped over for some kind of victory! Hmmm....I never did well in hurdles though, and I think my sister broke her arm doing that...uh....never mind that analogy :)

What to do? Anyone want a job as a live-in nanny? Um...except I can't pay you---we do have a pretty full deep freeze on most occassions if frozen food is appealing? :))

Saturday, February 14, 2009

Lydia goes "black and white"




My first attempts at messing around with my photos. These turned out great in b & w....

25 Random Things About Me

This has been circulating on FaceBook I guess, so I took the challenge of trying to think of 25 interesting things about myself. Posted here just for fun for those readers that aren't on FB--Andrea, I'm talking to you! It's kind of hard, but interesting what you come up with. Here's the list...

1. Been married for over 15 years and have known my husband since I was 14.
2. Have four children---three boys and one girl.
3. My daughter was born in China and is the most beautiful, cheerful toddler I've ever met!
4. I am a Speech Pathologist and now work as a Professor.
5. I owned a private practice for 5 years.
6. I lived in Southern California for 7 years---would move back there in an instant if we could afford it!
7. I would rather be at the ocean....
8. Before I die I want to publish something...magazine articles, novel...
9. I'm addicted to Chipotle burrito bowls.
10. My greatest fear is being trapped in a submerged vehicle...eeek!!
11. I've been in love twice, and married my best friend.
12. I've been to China twice, and climbed the Great Wall in two different sections.
13. -----should I put something here, since it's "13"---I'm a bit superstitious like my G'ma...she was always full of those little sayings to prevent bad luck...i still don't like to step on cracks or go under ladders..but my G'ma said if you say "bread and butter" when encountering those, you will save yourself! She was funny...Isn't that silly?
14. If I were stranded on a deserted island, I would insist on an unlimited supply of paper and pens as necessities---I would soon breathe my last if I couldn't write (I guess I could write in the sand with my finger, couldn't I?).
15. I'm very impatient and impulsive....geez, is this list done yet???
16. I'm VERY strong-willed, but can be agreeable... if it means I end up getting what I want....just kidding (not really).
17. I once lived in Austria for a summer, and found my Austrian friend on FB!
18. I don't like chocolate.
19. I love to do laundry! In fact watching the washer spin almost puts me in a trance and I sometimes find myself staring into it for a long time---am I normal?
20. I don't watch t.v.---too impatient and get annoyed with the ridiculous material on there.
21. I swear by supplements to avoid sickness and increase energy---Emerald Greens is my daily necessity and got me through endless nights with baby boys that don't sleep!
22. I dream in color and in events that are first person---what does that mean? not sure why I wrote that....I'm running out of stuff to say.
23. I love to play tea party with my young clients in therapy---fake chocolate cakes and pretty teacups are so fun! I guess because I know that isn't my real life :)
24. I'm married to a Navy Seal/007 wanna-be !
25. I once couldn't find my middle son (when he was 2) and thought he had been kidnapped from our yard. We found him about 7 minutes later---he had climbed in the car which was parked in the street, and was sitting in the back seat, sweaty and hot. The most frightening moment of my life....

Try it! It's kind of difficult to think of 25 interesting things...was for me anyway--perhaps I'm a bit lame!

Saturday, February 7, 2009

Time to "get with it"

Well, I think that I do pretty well in keeping up with the times, picking and choosing what I participate in to stay "hip" and "with it." But, I guess I've been missing out on something...

I knew it was time to re-evaluate my "hip-ness" when Jack's sixty-something Kindergarten teacher asked, "You're on Facebook aren't you?" Hmm... "No," I replied sheepishly, "should I be?" Then she proceeded to tell me how neat it is to chat with old (and new) friends and that I was really missing out.

Well after that convo, I thought, "Isn't that for teenagers?" and went home to check it out. I was surprised to find as I searched for friends that "everybody" is on Facebook---except me! So, I sent out a few "invites to be friends" and now I'm a groupie too. This morning already, I chatted with several people that I haven't talked to in years! How cool! With a twenty-year reunion coming up, this techie-tool should be a great way to find people.

Maybe I have risen on the cool meter? Don't know about that, but it's amazing what we can do these days to stay in touch...now to figure out all of the stuff on FB, so I don't look like a newbie!

Spring weather in February!





Look at those ribs! Ben is a night-owl like me...so he usually
hangs around playing while I'm up working on the computer. Can you tell he's a picky eater by the skin and bones physique? Here he is playing with his "alien chamber" building creatures with strange powers.









This is a typical after school "saber-scene" in my living room. It never ends! Due to the nice weather though, the saber-swinging Jedis moved outside---they are actually quite good with their maneuvers.






Lydia, wearing her little Mizzou outfit compliments of Uncle Bryant and Aunt Anika---black and gold seem to be her colors :)









Thursday, February 5, 2009

It's Brady's Birthday!



Happy Birthday to our nephew Brady on the Kemper side! He is Ben's buddy-in-crime. They are two bubble-gum chewing, watch-wearing cousins who love to get together when we are in JC. Brady is always somewhat concerned when we arrive---I think we are a bit rowdy for his taste :)

Have a great day little guy!