A Little Laughter, A Little Emotion.....A Lot of Reality

Wednesday, June 30, 2010

Water Therapy

Family Pictures

Rarely are we able to get my entire family together....when we do, a formal picture is the best way to celebrate!

Friday, June 25, 2010

Mud, Muddy, Muddier, Muddiest





"Mom, can we play in the mud?"

Such a simple question. The answer is usually "no" but today, I just felt like "who cares...what's a little mud?" Well, a few tosses of mud balls eventually turned into a muddy slip n' slide at the fence line. By the time they were done, I was picking earthworms out of his hair and mud plugs out of his ear canals! No more! But a fun beginning to summer :) Now if we could just keep Katie from running the fenceline and creating the mud pit in the first place.

Wednesday, June 23, 2010

Newsflash!!!!

Well, you'll be able to say you read it here first. I'm proud to announce that next quarter, in the neighborhood newsletter, I will be featured as "Worst Mother of the Year" ! I'm sure the editor will soon call to request a photo of me to go along with the article about my latest super-horrible-mom event. So that you will be in the know, the article will most likely read something like this:

"An area mother (who should know better) was startled to realize her naivity and foolishness today, when she mistakenly trusted the judgement of her 3 and 5 year-old children. "I thought it was an okay idea," she admitted later, "But I guess not." Witnesses in the neighborhood say it was just a story of "good deed gone bad," and they don't really feel that her actions were totally stupid, "just thoughtless."

Mrs. K reveals that while her preschoolers were occupied playing in the house, she told them she needed to run a concession stand donation over to the pool. The pool is less than 100 yards away, and she reportedly did tell the children to stay in the house and locked the front doors. She planned to be absent from the home for less than five minutes and was confident that they would not leave the gated back yard. Mrs. K even claims to have put the dog out in back to "watch over things" just in case.

Watchful neighbors confirmed that Mrs. K was over at the pool less than five minutes, and they did see her rush back over to the home and go inside. However, within seconds, they saw her frantically running through the side and back yards, screaming her children's names with a phone up to her ear. An anonymous neighbor reports "I saw the little girl wandering in front of the house, but I thought the mother must be nearby. Next I saw the mother running around like a crazy person, looking up and down the street and yelling into her phone, so I came over to help."

Mrs. K reports that she came back from the pool, into the home, only to find it empty of her children. They were nowhere to be found--not in the backyard either--and the dog was cheerfully talking to another dog at the fence. She was shocked that they would have the boldness to leave the house as they tended to be cautious scaredy-cats. She confirmed that the front and back doors were still locked, but they must have left through the side garage door. She re-tells that she continued to yell for them, but with no answer and ran around to leave the gated backyard to go to scour the front. It is at this point that she found her five year-old son, standing outside of the gate on side of the house looking scared. "Where's Lydia?!" she asked, and the boy reportedly said, "She left by herself."

Soon after, Mrs. K was seen running in circles in her driveway, gesturing wildly to her neighbor across the street, alternatly yelling her daughter's name, and "I can't find Lydia!" into the phone to another eager-to-help neighbor.

Just as Mrs. K and her attentive neighbor set out to track down the missing 3 year-old, they saw another fellow mom walking toward the house from the pool carrying the missing little girl. Mrs. K was overjoyed to see her and thanked her friend profusely for being so alert. The anonymous rescuing neighbor was calm and level-headed. If she had not recognized the little girl and been thinking on her feet, who knows what would have happened! "I knew my neighbor had rushed back to the house, and then saw the little girl. She had to cross the street to get to the pool! Mom and daugheter must have somehow crossed paths and I knew my friend didn't know the little one was here."

Mrs. K says she has learned her lesson. She will continue to run nearby errands, but with the preschoolers chained to her hip. She will work harder to stress that the kids don't make their own rules....Lydia claims she was going to find mom, Ben claims he let Lydia out of the gate because "she wanted to leave!" She will give Lydia more of the "you freaked Mommy out" lectures, stranger danger and the "you could get hit by a car" info. And, she will encourage the boys and the dog that it is their JOB to watch out for their little sister! Ben announced later, "Mom while you were over there, I was in charge, how did I do?" WHAT?!

Most of all, Mrs. K is thankful for her faithful neighbors who watch out for others and help in the time of need, and thankful for God watching over her children despite the stupid-mom mistakes!

For more details, please call. Congratulations Mrs. K! You will see her award plague hanging from her mailbox. Honk when you drive by."


Well, unfortunately true story. Fortunately, it turned out fine and that is why I can sit here and be funny about it. It is once again, one of that moments that leaves you petrified, humiliated, and with thoughts of doom in your mind. I do LOVE my neighbors...they are wonderful and so happy that we are able to help one another. Hopefully someday I will be able to return the favor (although I pray not looking for a lost child).

Overall, Ben was ashamed that he had permitted her to leave. Lydia was extremely sad and frightened following our serious talk about obeying mom's instructions and safety. AND, Mommy is abundantly thankful that I'm not at this momemnt missing my child....and now realizes the mistake in trust and their ability to make sensible choices.....NOW, to find locks for those backyard gates!

Friday, June 11, 2010

Chinese Celebration & Dance Recital Tomorrow



Tomorrow is the celebration of the Chinese Dragon Boat Festival in KC at the Plaza. Lydia dances with her group during part of the program. I'm nervous for her. At age 3 she has no idea what a nice event this is, and I hope she doesn't freak out. Also hoping that she remembers her moves as a butterfly and doesn't fly off the stage!

Location: Café Corner, in the Country Club Plaza
– On Ward Parkway betweenJ. C. Nichols and Wyandotte

Date and Time: Saturday, June 12, 2010 10:00 a.m. - 2:30 p.m. The performances begin around noon.

www.kcca-online.org.

I love my boys, but also super happy that I have a little girl :) Smiles and thanks to the Lord, the giver of all perfect gifts (my Lydia).

Tuesday, June 8, 2010

Imagining Summer...Peace for Moms!




I always wished I could conjure up an imaginary friend like Hobbes. One that would help entertain me and be my partner in crime no matter how scary or lame the adventure. I guess my imagination is not expanded enough to do that though, because no invisible friend ever appeared. I couldn't even manage to give my stuffed animals a personality. I was always sad for myself and envious of little girls who had one (however, now I've learned from my psych friends that the imaginary friend is not such a positive thing from the mental health perspective!)

As the mama of four trying to survive....uh, I mean ENJOY (!)...the summer with my kids, I find myself wishing that they would find some imaginary pal who would respond to their every whim. So far, they think that playmate is ME! For a couple of hours that is okay, but after a few days of the constant noise, requests for games, sports, outdoor craziness, crafts, activities, exploring etc. etc., I have made an announcement...."I am NOT your CLOWN, here to entertain you! Either play with each other, or play by yourself, just keep busy!"....end of lecture. For the first week of summer, that's very revealing, isn't it?

That reminded me of Calvin today and what a great pair he and Hobbes make for summer fun :) My kids are like Calvin, demanding fun and justice for kids (sans the overboard smarty-pants mischievous side, thankfully). But, I'm hoping that they soon realize that I am not the playmate Hobbes. I am rather the frazzled cartoon mother that is usually depicted screaming her head off! I'm praying for 3 months of sustained energy and EXCITEMENT for the summer, without anxiety attacks and gloom :)

Wishing all kids out there, the ability to give their mothers peace, love, and obedience during this joyful summer time. And wishing all my mommy-chics the ability to maintain calmness and kid-like happiness, while enjoying snippets of selfish adult fun every couple of days for these long months :)

If you start talking to an imaginary friend at this point in the game, don't worry....it's okay! Just pull her up a lounge chair, offer her a drink, introduce her to the kids and enjoy yourselves ;)